- 1 What is Polyamory coaching by Viktor Leberecht based on?
- 2 What qualifications and knowledge does Viktor Leberecht have to be a polyamory coach?
- 3 Coaching can´t replace medical diagnosis or therapy
- 4 My first, free advice: preferrably work with coaches that have personal experience with polyamory.
- 5 The website Viktor Leberecht - What it´s about and an overview of the contents
- 6 Series of articles
- 7 General information about polyamory, polygamy and open relationship
- 8 My theses on love and family free from excessive government regulation in a democratic society
- 9 Expert, Author, Speaker and Coach for Polyamory and Open Relationships
- 10 Please feel free to send your suggestions, they are welcome
- 11 Become a guest author
What is Polyamory coaching by Viktor Leberecht based on?
Polyamory coaching by Viktor Leberecht is based on personal life experience and extensive theoretical knowledge from the study of scientific literature and other books, as well as countless articles, and on writing hundreds of articles about polyamory myself. In my native Germany there currently is no training or diploma for polyamory coaching.
What qualifications and knowledge does Viktor Leberecht have to be a polyamory coach?
I have acquired the practical experience and theoretical knowledge mentioned above since 2003. Since then I have lived in a polyamorous and open relationship with a woman who is married to another man. In the beginning, we didn’t even know that polyamory existed, and we learned a lot of things by trying out, making mistakes, trying again, working it out ourselves.
We would have often been grateful for guidance or advice, and as polyamory is becoming more prevalent all over the world, I guessed that others could use help too. That´s why I decided to offer advice and help myself.
I have written hundreds of articles about polyamory and open relationships, which you can find on my websites listed under this text. To write these articles I’ve read many books and countless articles about polyamory. So I have a lot and probably exceptionally wide-ranging theoretical knowledge and practical experience in polyamory.
I have also worked for many years as a project manager and consultant in companies. From this activity, I have extensive experience and have taken several courses in conversation management and consulting, especially in difficult situations. My experience is that even in the working environment, real counseling often involves human issues, even if they are not openly addressed.
Coaching can´t replace medical diagnosis or therapy
I would like to point out that I am not a therapist or a doctor. If you experience any difficulties requiring medical or therapeutic care, please always contact a doctor or therapist.
However, in my opinion, the challenges that usually arise with polyamory and open relationships are not those that require medical or therapeutic care. It is more a matter of familiarising oneself with a way of life that is still little known to us, for which, unlike with monogamous relationships, we have not learned rules and behaviors from an early age. And many people still think that monogamy is the only natural way of life, so polyamory must be wrong.
I can reassure you: monogamy is scientifically proven not the only natural way of life for humans. This is what scientists thought until about forty years ago, These views were simply based on a lack of data. Since then, the previously unavailable science of genetic research has made great progress. Genetic research has discovered that more than 90% of all animal species, including humans, are naturally sexually polygamous. The scientific findings have been gathered in two books by renowned Professor David Barash The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infidelity in Animals and People, from 2002, and in his recent work from 2016 Out of Eden: The Surprising Consequences of Polygamy.
So I can reassure you – based on scientifically proven facts – that polyamory and open relationships are natural ways of life for people. You can, therefore, assume that you probably have many or all of the physical properties and mental abilities required for such relationships. However, you are probably unaware of this due to the monogamous cultural influence prevailing in many societies, especially Christian societies. But you can bring these abilities back into your conscious mind, so to speak, learn them anew. And I can help you with that.
Now you’ll get my first and free advice.
My first, free advice: preferrably work with coaches that have personal experience with polyamory.
I advise you, even if you don’t take advice from me, to seek advice from someone with practical experience in polyamory. And of course, a coach should also have theoretical knowledge, based on the study of scientific literature and other books and articles about polyamory.
Until a few years ago, polyamory was regarded as an abnormality, and even today you will still find many therapists who think so. This is because these therapists are not up to date with the current state of science described above, according to which we are clearly predisposed to polygamous behavior. Instead, many psychotherapists still think that people who do not want to live in a couple relationship have problems with fear of attachment or suffer from sex addiction.
Until a few years ago, I would find many articles still claiming just that. A person seeking advice in a forum reported how her therapist really reproached her for living polyamory. She was then very happy when I was able to give her the information about our natural polygamous inclination, as well as the information that after years of research the American Psychiatric Association officially concluded in 2012 that sex addiction does not exist: Sex Addiction: Rejected Yet Again by APA.
Against this background, I am sure you will understand my advice to find a coach or therapist who is at least positively disposed towards the non-monogamous lifestyle of polyamory and open relationships. And it is even better when your coach or therapist has personal experience with polyamory. Some things can’t be taught by books, but only by life itself.
Advice is given in German or English. If you like I will take minutes of the important questions and results of the session. You will receive the minutes of the meeting as a PDF file after the consultation.
The costs for one hour of consultation by telephone or video chat via Skype, Google Hangouts, zoom or any other technology that works for both sides amount to € 70.00 net, plus statutory VAT, currently 19%. You will receive an invoice.
I also give speeches (for a more general interested public) and lectures (a bit more scientific, e.g. for an audience with a professional interest, like teachers, therapists etc) on polyamory, polygamy and open relationships and specific arrangements can be made.
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The website Viktor Leberecht - What it´s about and an overview of the contents
On the website of Viktor Leberecht, an expert on love and family life free from state over-regulation, you may find current articles and general information on polyamory, polygamy and open relationships. And you will learn how we all, including the followers of monogamy, are unnecessarily and unlawfully restricted by excessive government regulation of our love and family lives.
Series of articles
You will find articles that I have either written myself or found all over the world, and some by Guest Authors.
General information about polyamory, polygamy and open relationship
What is Polyamory?: the English translation of the subpages is still in the works. They will give information e,g. about prejudices about polyamory, lists of polyamory events and meetings and polyamory dating websites, as well as information about polyamory science with results from research on polyamory and many other topics.
What is polygamy? the English translation of the subpages is still in the works. They will give information about, for example, prejudices about polygamy and how things really are, polygamy introductions, and polygamy science with results from research on polygamy.
What is Open Relationship? this area is still completely in the works. Once done, it will give information about, for example, prejudices about open relationships and how things really are, open relationship introductions, and open relationship science with results from research on open relationships.
My theses on love and family free from excessive government regulation in a democratic society
In 2010 I wrote theses about the possible contribution of non-monogamy to the modern democratic society based on human rights and equal rights, which I have constantly developed further. From the theses, you may learn how we all, including the followers of monogamy, are restricted by excessive government regulation of our love and family life. Theses on love and family free from excessive government regulation.
Expert, Author, Speaker and Coach for Polyamory and Open Relationships
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