Thesis 12: Polygamy, when based on equal rights of all parties involved, leads to stable, lasting relationships, perhaps even more than monogamy.
The divorce statistics of western countries speak loud and clear that monogamous marriages are not working as a model for long lasting relations. In my homecountry Germany sexual infidelity is by far the main reason for divorce, which usually happens after five years.
On the other hand, many people in western countries who live multiple relationships specify the wish for long-term relationships as their main motivation. They often say that they do not want to end an existing love for a new love, as numerous articles and books on the subject report.
Due to the legal situation which prohibits polygamy in western countries we are lacking scientific evidence about the effect of polygamy on the durability of marriages in modern western societies. But based on my own experience in a polyamorous relation lasting since 2003 – that means, double the time than the average german marriage – and the findings of scientific research about polyamorous people I think it is quite possible that for many people multiple relationships last longer than the average monogamous marriage.
This is not meant as an attack on monogamy, but only based on statistical findings that monogamy does not seem to work for most people as a way to have stable long lasting relations.
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